Another “eye-cation” at “The Thornton Hotel”…

Well Hello My Pretties, and your big dogs too….

I had my Left Eye Orbital Decompression on the 7th of February. As is always, a pleasure.

My Orbital Decompression with Drs. Bobby Korn and Audrey Ko went as smooth as ever! I did wake up with some sort of gloved turban situation, but I was thankful for being safe and alive and finally having my left eye look somewhat like my right, which has recovered beautifully.

I’m not sure of the next steps, as I will be seeing Dr. Korn again in about 3 weeks, but it is already looking beautiful.

Couldn’t have more amazingly supporting doctors and nurses! All of them were there for me beyond the job. Thankful is not enough!

LOok at that turban situation I have going there!?! I woke up and looked in a mirror and was like, “WTF?” I swear it was attached to my eye.. That glove… WHAT IS THAT.

Anyhoo, so without further ado, here I am in all my facial glory… (Comments are necessary, please!!!!)

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This and thaaaaaaaaaat…..

******* January 26, 2017 *******

yeah yeah yeah…

I know, I know. I’m very overdue for this blog. So I think it’s time to update y’all on my Amytastic life….


So, I had my first surgery on the right eye for my Graves Disease. Below is the slideshow on all of that….

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I’m having the left eye surgery on the 7th of February. Just around the corner. At Jacobs/Thornton Hospital. I’ll be there overnight, so feel free to check in or visit… Bring food offerings… Hahaha! No, like seriously. I had no food last time because I got out surgery later and I didn’t have the heart to ask Rob to get me food. There’s hardly any food offerings in that section of La Jolla unless you visit the mall… Yeah, no!

Thanksgiving was especially awesome… Excellent food offerings by all three of us.

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As for Christmas, we were sad to not attend my amazing Godparents dinner because I was Looking a bit GOONIESish!

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I made the exact dinner my beautiful and hardworking Godmother Angela made for the family tasty!

New Years was even better. It’s been awhile since I’ve had a kiss at midnight…

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And so that leads us to today. Sitting a Shiley. Pre-op stuff. The best thing is…  We get to spend the night with my favorite BFFs and brothers from excellent and beloved mothers, Robbie and Gregg. And I get to see FINNIE!! I’m just now getting into Prim’s inner circle. She’s slept on the guest bed with me and STAYED!! I’m flabbergasted! She finally lets me walk her and pet her and even pick her up and hold her. Making moves there!

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So so that’s my life in a nutshell since the last time I updated!

…. And if you are Aunt Judy’s (my dads first wife) husband…. A BIG HUGE SHOUT OUT to you for keeping up with my crazy!




Dark and Twisty Bubble…

In my “woe is me” bubble, still. I am working on ranch stuff and going to the ORV races here in Campo today and tomorrow is the 4 wheelers…

But I’m still in my bubble. It’s warm and cozy and I am in it to process some new shit in my already sick and dying life…

Bubble. Me. Now.


I’m in my dark & twisty “bubble”, so I’m re-doing the walk-in pantry! 

Well. So last Thursday was interesting to say the least!

About 10 days ago, I went to the #opthamologist to continue on my “make sure all my other organs, orrifices and body parts are in tip-top shape” world tour…

What a mistake. Sort of. Well not really. I was referred to #Ocularplastics. Having had no clue as to why I was going, I went to the appointment Thursday, hence my “bubble” status. .

After 3, count them, 3 hours, Dr. Audrey Ko diagnosed me with “history of bilateral #Proptosis with suspicion for #Graves/Thyroid Eye Disease”… #SoManyTests

She’s rather convinced and sees me with all the classic signs… Oh yeah. Because Amy needed YET another effing #AILMENT!!!!

So here we go again with extensive blood labs, CT Orbits, Visual Fields, Ocular Color Photo, and then back to #ShileyEyeCenter to discuss the treatment plan.

All I know is, my eyes hurt all time, headaches, sinus, occasional double vision, 👀 protruding eyes 👀… And more.

So yeah. I’m in my bubble. And I’m just going about my bubble mess….

In my bubble, The Sleestacks rule!

In my bubble, The Sleestacks rule!

So I decided to emerge from my self-imposed “woe is me” avoidance bubble long enough my work on the #ranch.

Re-did the walk-in, gave Little Ricky a #puppy cut, made a pot of #Spanish #Lentil and Black Bean #Soup, and more.

I took photos of the walk-in after my #darkandtwisty #OCD hands got in there. Now it’s #justlikeilikeit!!

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My mom is kind of an #apocalypsejunkie! #HoardingMuch? I tried the best I could in there…

On Saturday, I emerged again and dragged myself out to the Campo #VMX Flat Track Races. Rather fascinating experience. I very much enjoyed it when Jeff, my long ago ex-fiancée, took me to #TheMurph to the #Motocross… So. Much. FUN!!! Wish it were more like that. Sadly, it felt like we watched more #tractor races (i.e. wetting down the track, filling holes, etc, etc…) than actually watching races. $10 sort of wasted. But at least I had a great experience.

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So now we are at Sunday. I’m climbing out of my bubble now to start a week anew.

Tomorrow, Monday, I’m headed to my therapist do discuss last weekend homework assignment. We are working on unsensored future plans. Is #sex and a hot man considered #Unsensored #futureplans? #cobwebs

I kid, I kid! Or am I???

A lot of new testing, exams, scans, to go through, but at least the sinus pain (or what I thought was #sinus pain), eye strain, painful eyes, double vision, protruding eyes, headaches, etc., will be taken care of.

This all culminates on Thursday, when I will have my sit down with my Ocularplastics and figure out a treatment plan.

I also am am meeting with my #LiverTransplant Doctor, Dr. Vodkin, and my Coordinator, Joanie, on Thursday. Just a regular check up and discussion of the latest shit in my life.

And God willing, I can fit in my work and a few meals with friends.

For this, I’m #blessed.

Hope everyone has a great week. I’ll try to blog more as I get back to the city this week.

Ti amo tutti molto,


Fun stuff I’ve been up to… Yet still single.. SHOCKINGLY…

So, like, I’ve been busy these days. I’ve had some fun stuff going on that is helping me in my…


Here are some photos of what

Robbie and I have been up to:

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Here are some photos of what

my dentist and I have been up to:

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    Good times at My niece Angela’s Mission Beach Volleyball Practice:

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    Ranch stuff and goings-on:

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  • Well, that’s about it. Nothing new in the liver department. Blood test are great and I’m getting back to work.. Thanks to my sister Virginia for giving me the time at sports games and practices with my niece and nephew…

  • Love to everyone… When I update, I’ll update… Otherwise follow me on Facebook and Instagram!!


So, like…

So like it’s 4am on today and I’m awake.

Sooo many random thoughts…

Life, reborn

Old becomes renewed

Days are tree limbs

Mornings and sunrises

The sun is my Sustinence 

Sunsets are reflections


Until the new day

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When an MTV reality show interrupted my vacation

Dear Newsletter Friends,

Last week I went on a brief vacation, staying with family in Hawaii. I was grateful for their generosity and for the time away. Instead of watching Survivor, for example, I hiked into the crater of a dormant volcano, which was incredible—and for someone used to walking and running on flat land at sea level, trudging back up steep grade of volcanic rock in the thin air was surprisingly exhausting.

On Friday, my last day there before flying home, I went out onto the lanai, ready for hours of just sitting and looking at the water and the volcanic mountains in the distance, reading a book (I still haven’t finished ‘The Goldfinch’), and just being present. I even left my phone in the bedroom, intending to not look at it.

The condo building overlooks a small public park and beachfront, where some kind of event was being set up—tents, grills, tables, chairs. A party? A family reunion? Then people started carrying long, rectangular wooden boxes, each side colorfully painted with two narrow triangles. Our first guess was that it was some kind of circus, maybe for animals. They laid out large pieces of wood with tall, thin poles stuck into them. Maybe someone was going to walk on their hands? Or dogs or cats would climb on these?

Through binoculars—I’m subtle—I saw that the small platforms on the tops of these poles were actually different shapes, circles and stars and hearts, and were painted with different colors. A man walked by carrying a big bunch of short ropes, and also what appeared to be pipe insulation foam. How very strange.

I traced the table rentals to a company that supplies film and TV productions with equipment, but couldn’t find anything more. After walking to the post office to mail postcards, we walked back through the park’s parking lot, where more vans were being unloaded. The crew had earpieces connected to radios; the vans said “Production.” This was very clearly some kind of TV show. The subsequent appearance of cameras and jib crane confirmed that.

But what show? I searched social media, and even posted the question on Twitter, but turned up nothing of productions in Maui. Then came one reference to Are You The One?, MTV’s competition between 20 single people whose alleged soulmates are in the cast.

I watched more, dipping into my book occasionally but also continuing to research and watch what was happening. Some condo staff had no idea (one person I talked to was asked a few days earlier if their parking lot could be used for “an event”), but eventually details came from someone we asked: it was a Los Angeles-based crew of people, filming an MTV show. There were 10 men, 10 women, all single. He didn’t recall the title, until I said, Are You The One?, which I now realize sounds less like a title and more like a proposition.

The cast arrived, looking very MTV 2016, and I took some pictures and tweeted what I saw over several hours, which was not a lot. Even when they eventually ran the challenge, it was over quickly. Later, they re-created it, with cameras in the mix, presumably to get close-up shots that will be cut in with the actual competition footage. There was a lot of set-up and tear down, from early morning to late afternoon, and very little action.

But it renewed my appreciation for the work required to make a television show. Those who ignorantly dismiss all reality television as fake might see this as evidence that it’s all a charade. I see it as evidence of the incredible amount of work required by so many people to produce a few minutes of entertainment for us, work that is, by design, invisible to viewers.

So much for a day of relaxing on my last day of vacation! Actually, it still was quite wonderful: I was watching reality TV in real time from the lanai. Such an incredible coincidence.

Hope you’re well. And should this ever happen to you, definitely let me know about it!

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Click Here to find highlights from recent things I’ve written, including an article for the magazine Pacific Standard, plus a list of everything published since the last Reality in Focus. Enjoy.